Today is my birthday. After having 51 of these, it almost seems unremarkable but, upon closer inspection, it does require some celebration. You see, looking ahead there seems to be fewer summers than the ones behind. This may sound like an existential crisis, but it’s more of a realization. A realization that causes me to […]
When I was in grad school, I went into counseling. One of the most profound things my counselor told me was, "Between stimulus and response, there is the freedom to choose." This resonated with me as I began to think about many of the regrets I've had over my life.
A few months ago, I started seeing a counselor. On the surface my life was great, but on the inside I was uneasy, insecure, and unhappy. I realized the constant criticism from my parents made me believe I wasn't good enough.
At first glance, the phrase "social distancing" seems like an oxymoron. How is it possible to be "social" and "distant" at the same time? This "new normal" has placed us in a precarious position. We must now find new ways to connect with the hopes that we can continue to live in the face of uncertainty and death.
How often do we pretend to be perfect? How often do we post our blessings, edit our pictures, and summarize our lives within the prism (or prison) of perfectionism? We work hard to put forth the best image of ourselves. We love to show our friends and family how special and exciting our lives have become. Isn't this the purest form of perfectionism? And, more importantly, doesn't this move us further away from truly connecting with one another?
If you are a child of the 70s and 80s, you've probably experienced extreme parenting. Extreme parenting is the recognition that reason and judgement are secondary tools employed when raising children. Order, peace, and quiet are the first.
I found this blog post type written and tucked in an old drawer. It just may be my first blog ever. It definitely shows how I use everyday events and turn them into life lessons.
Sometimes the highly competent can suffer from the lowest self-esteem. They don't view or see their ability as making them different from everyone else. Negative self-talk can stall and/or derail even the most talented individuals. It is for this reason I chose to write this post. It's time to Overcome Negative Self-Talk.
All of the online dating sites boast their legitimate appeal and tout their success stories. But, what's the other side of the story? Are these sites filled with genuine people sharing who they are with the world, or are they catfish farms filled with internet trolls, semi-stalkers, and Craig's List killers?
Two weeks ago, I penned a personal essay about my experiences as a Black youth growing up in a predominantly White community. For me to say I was overwhelmed by the response is an understatement. What I found to be most fascinating was the fact that the responses came from both Black and White readers, many […]
Sill-E Thoughts 
Volume 99: Area 51 – The Age of Vulnerability
May 12, 2023
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Today is my birthday. After having 51 of these, it almost seems unremarkable but, upon closer inspection, it does require some celebration. You see, looking ahead there seems to be fewer summers than the ones behind. This may sound like an existential crisis, but it’s more of a realization. A realization that causes me to […]