When I was in grad school, I went into counseling. One of the most profound things my counselor told me was, "Between stimulus and response, there is the freedom to choose." This resonated with me as I began to think about many of the regrets I've had over my life.
If you are a child of the 70s and 80s, you've probably experienced extreme parenting. Extreme parenting is the recognition that reason and judgement are secondary tools employed when raising children. Order, peace, and quiet are the first.
Two weeks ago, I penned a personal essay about my experiences as a Black youth growing up in a predominantly White community. For me to say I was overwhelmed by the response is an understatement. What I found to be most fascinating was the fact that the responses came from both Black and White readers, many […]
Self-preservation is a natural human response. Violence is not. Violence is learned. Violence is the expressed anger from a person/people who just want an opportunity to be and feel safe.
Hello, good people! I’m going to say thank you for all of the virtual “Welcome back!” that I’m getting right now. I don’t want to waste too much time boring you with where I’ve been and what I’ve been doing. Just know that posting is something that I always want to do, and I would love […]
What if you put your pride, fear, and scorecard aside and just loved the people around you unconditionally? Do you think that you would get the love you need in return? Do you think that you would get more?
In my humble opinion, the use of the n-word is being debated because the previous owners are having a hard time letting go of their ability to use the word without repercussion. In layman's terms, White America is saying to Black America, "If I can't say it, you can't either."
I realize that much of my parenting style comes from my experiences as a child - good or bad. And for those of us that had a parent who was, welllllllll, less-than-stellar, there is a tendency to swing the parental pendulum in the opposite direction, or unconsciously do exactly what they did.
As a self-professed critical thinker I asked myself, "What would I do for fame?" What price am I willing to pay for a little notoriety because, in the 21st century, it pays.....well.
On Friday, April 26, 2013 my maternal grandmother passed away. She was the last of my four grandparents to pass, and was the one that quietly played a more significant role than any of the others in my life as a child.
Sill-E Thoughts 
Volume 98: Seven Seconds Can Change Your Life…
April 7, 2022
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When I was in grad school, I went into counseling. One of the most profound things my counselor told me was, "Between stimulus and response, there is the freedom to choose." This resonated with me as I began to think about many of the regrets I've had over my life.